There’s No Place Like Home

I begin to think about all the places that I have been and lived, and it’s a wonder why we haven’t settled. We both come from small towns, but we are definitely NOT small town people. We have big dreams. Bigger dreams than what living in a small town can give us. Some people like the small town atmosphere. The feeling of family all being in one place and everyone gathering for special occasions like Christmas and Thanksgiving. It’s not like that for our little family. Both sides drives us a little crazy, but we still love them, but not enough to move back to small town USA.

I went to my mom’s this weekend to spend some time with my grandmother. She is in poor health, and I want her to be able to see her great grandbabies as much as possible before anything happens. My kids are 1 and 2 years old so when I take them out of their normal environment, it really shows and makes this mama extremely tired. My mom’s house is no where near kid friendly so I was constantly putting things up so they couldn’t break anything. That’s exhausting when you are doing it all day. I went to my dad’s place and saw him this weekend. It was a nice visit considering everything that I have said to him this past year. (I’m not going to elaborate)

Kylee loved playing with Mammaw, and I’m sure that she enjoyed it too, but Kylee is 2 and a little rough. Mammaw was a trooper, but I eventually hod to get Kylee to quit climbing on her. She didn’t like that, but she was also very ready to come home and see her daddy. I was only gone for 2 days. Daddy went to his parents this weekend and went racing with his dad. We have to get as much family time in as possible. Why? We are moving to California in a very short 2 months.

CALIFORNIA!

You have to understand. We are from the midwest, which I think is inaccurate anyway because we aren’t even close to the middle of the US and we are more east than west. I don’t understand and I never have understood why they call us the midwest…Anyway…I’m super stoked. I’m really ready for this move, and I have been ready for this change for a long time. It’s way far away, and I’m ok with that. It’s going to be a journey worth taking. We just got the news at the end of last week. I was ready then to drop everything and go.

I love traveling, I hate moving. I love living in different parts of the US. I hate moving. I love seeing the sights and the beauty this country has to offer. I hate moving…you see a pattern? Moving requires organization, packing, driving, hotels, gas…$$$…My husband is fortunate enough to have a job that pays for our move, or at least, pays us back afterwards.

So this is a new beginning for us and I can’t wait to share all of our experiences and hang ups. Good times and bad. Will you join me?

Things to Know When Riding a Bike

I grew up in a world where if you didn’t wear your helmet, it was ok. I have never owned a helmet or any kind of riding safety for that matter. I taught myself how to ride a bike when I turned 7. My birthday is in January and I got a bike on that special day. Growing up in Indiana, well, in January, it snows or it’s just really freaking cold. As an adult, I try to avoid going out as much as possible when it’s cold out. I hate the cold, but as a kid, I guess I didn’t care. I was so excited about getting that bike, I took it outside and learned how to ride. No one pushing me, nothing. I didn’t fall but once and was riding like a pro after just a little while.

When I was in junior high, I lived just down the road from my school, so when it was nice outside, I would ride to school. I remember one day it was nice in the morning, but throughout the day, it started storming really bad. My dad came and picked me and my bike up in the old pick up truck. What a good daddy 🙂 I was constantly riding to my best friends house and back. I would ride all day and not even get tired.

There were only 2 specific times that I remember crashing on my bike and it was always from going downhill. From then on, I was terrified of going downhill. I was always scared of wrecking. Nothing horrible like broken bones came out of it. Just scraped knees and hands. As a kid, it was pretty awful, but I guess never scared me enough to start wearing a helmet or knee pads.

As an adult now, I ride for pleasure and exercise. (I still don’t wear a helmet, just sayin) When I ride now, I feel it in all my muscle the next day, even my arms. Meaning that I am way out of shape, but getting into shape. I finally got a road bike for the first time a couple of years ago, after I had my first child. It helped me lose a lot of my weight. The last time I remember riding, I rode 10 miles. It was one of the greatest riding experiences that I learned, but I was wore out in the middle of my ride, which wasn’t good because I had to turn around and go home.

Here’s my need to know list when you decide to start riding

  1. Check tires and brakes – There isn’t anything worse than being in the middle of your ride and find out that you have a flat tire or your going down a hill and your brakes aren’t as good as you hoped.
  2. Take a squirt bottle of water – Riding on hot days can be very tiring, and if you aren’t riding on trails where there are rest stops, you could get very dehydrated. Reason for the squirt bottle? You need both hands to ride and when you have a squirt bottle, you can still use one had to steer and steady and one hand to get your bottle, use your mouth to open the spout and drink. Just common sense, I think :/
  3. Watch out for rocks – When riding a mountain bike, this one isn’t as important because of the way the tires are designed. Road bikes on the other hand, they have skinny wheel and riding over even small rocks is not advised. I ran over one the other day and just about lost my balance. Could have been a reason to get a helmet, but nah 🙂
  4. Ride with traffic, not against it – You are technically on something sort of moving vehicle so it’s just law.
  5. Be courteous to drivers – I’ve been on both end of this one. I have been behind bike riders and scared to pass because I might hit them. That’s when you end up with a line of cars behind you, and those people are usually pretty impatient. You may not be able to stop, but try to get over as far to side as you can.
  6. Watch out for falling tree debris – Ok, so you may not be able to WATCH out for this, but if anything hits you in the head, don’t freak out. It’s probably just a tree nut.
  7. Keep your mouth close – Sometimes this one is hard cause you may be so tired and panting like a dog, but trust me, keep your mouth shut. You know when you are driving and bugs splat on your windshield? Well, when riding, you end swallowing those bugs, and that’s really disgusting.
  8. Wear sunglasses, unless riding at night – Same thing as above, but getting them in your eye kind of really hurts and then you can’t see where you are going. Not good.
  9. If you can only ride a mile, ride half way – Now, when you just start out riding and you can only go so far, don’t ride as far as you can go because you do have to turn around a go back. If a mile is all you want to go, ride a half mile and then turn around. That’s 1 mile. Build your milage up. Don’t expect to do the impossible the first time around.
  10. Don’t give up, just keep riding – Who really likes to exercise? I know that unless someone is there motivating me, I don’t do much as far as exercise. I love riding my bike and could do all the time, if I had the time. Don’t get discouraged if it’s too hard at first because the more you do, the better you get and the harder and faster you can ride.

Now get out there and enjoy this beautiful weather! Play with your kids. Stay active. Eat healthy. Be the awesome person that you already are!

When I Get Old…er

Sometimes, I get to thinking about when I get older, where will I be? Who will I know? Will my kids still be close? Will I start going crazy? Am I already headed down the path to crazy? Will my husband and I still be motorcycle riding, adventure taking old people? Will we own a house? Cars? Land? Grandkids? Will we go up in rapture before any of that will actually happen?

There are a lot of things to consider. We rent a house. We pay 2 car loans. Own 2 dirtbikes for actually racing purposes. 3 working bicycles for exercise purposes. We do not have a gym membership. We do not pay any kind of community fees from living in a subdivision. God forbid that we ever have to do that. The country is where we want to be. We will never own a mini van, no matter if we have more kids or not. I love my Cadillac! I make up excuses to leave my house so I can drive it.

I still have both of my parents. This will be the only time in my life that I can say that I am about to be a big sister. Half sister. My dad’s girlfriend is having his baby. Weird? Yes. Completely. It’s an *oh well, let’s move on* situation. I buy my kid’s clothes from Children’s Place and Baby Gap. I’m a little obsessed, but with this whole trying to save for a year to pay off a vehicle, I have to cut back that shopping a bit. My kids love being outside and would live outside if I would let them.

My daughter is cute and she knows it. My son is my bud and laughs every time I just look at him. I call my daughter monster. My son is called Bubby and mostly answers to Bubby. The monster girl does not like being cold. Bubby is hot most of the time. Anyway, you get the drift. Life is pretty great right now. We are waiting to see where the job is going to take us within the next few months. Somewhere South, just not sure where.

All of this moving around doesn’t leave much room for stability. The kids aren’t old enough to be in school yet, so it doesn’t hurt to move right now, but when they start school, things may change. Not sure how though. When I think about our future and where we will be, I honestly can’t see us anywhere yet. I haven’t found that one place that I love to be, and we just have to live there. We have met some great people in our travels, and we have met some not so great people. We have met people that were great in that moment, but very easy to forget in the long run and we have met people that will be our friends forever.

Our goal for our life is to eventually find land, build a house on a small part of that land and then the rest…motocross track! My husband will be riding his dirtbike forever into eternity. At our mansion in Heaven, God had better allow for a track to built for him or he may consider moving 😉 His dad still races and he is turning 61 this year. My husband is covered as far as what he wants to do when I grows old, but me? I think I may know what I want to do, but it’s just a matter of where we when that time comes.

I love being creative. I love home decorating and making things pretty. I love cooking and have people enjoy that cooking. I love making people feel comfortable and happy. Someday, I would like to open up my own B&B. Sounds reasonable? I think so. I just have to plan and plan…and oh yeah…make a plan. Pray and believe. I have ambition, but I need to learn the ropes. I never went to college. I got married early in life and still don’t regret it to this day.

I strive to be the parent that my kids can look up to and say to their friends *I want to be like my mom and dad when I grow up* I want to set the bar. I don’t want to be just another statistic. I want to grow up with dignity and be a woman of honor and help my husband be the man he is supposed to be. I am very blessed to be where I am at right now and try not to take anything for granted. I love my husband. I love kids. I love my family. I want to live the standard of Godly parents.

I will mess up. I will fail. I will occasionally yell and then cry because I was too hard. My kids will get mad at me. They will say things to me that will hurt my feelings, but in the end I know that they don’t really mean what they said. I will take things personal. But if none of those things happen, I will never learn. Growing up is hard and life isn’t fair. Just take what you have and cherish it and make the best of what God gives you.

2 Posts in One Day…I’m on a Roll

The only reason that I am posting again is because I am so excited to have my son back. He didn’t go anywhere. By back I mean, happy and healthy. Just one dose of medicine and he is laughing, eating, crawling around, did I mention eating?? Yes, I am a very happy mommy right now.

I will be even happier when my daughter comes back from being gone for almost a week at grammy and grampy’s house. Oh, how I have missed her. This next week is going to be tough though. I can tell, and she isn’t here yet. When she is at the grandparents, she gets spoiled, and I mean spoiled rotten. I will have to work with her all over again, with routine, what she eats, learning that no actually means no again…yes, the typical stuff that parents have to work with their kids on when they come back from grandma and grandpa’s house.

Well, anyway…I smell something unpleasant and am not looking forward to seeing what it is, not that I don’t already know. 😉

Thought for the Day

Last night, my husband and my friend were watching South Park. I can’t stand the show so when I came into the living room, I turned it to something else. I will admit that some of the jokes are funny, but the show is very vulgar, and if I’m going to watch a cartoon, it’s going to be kid friendly. I have 2 children, so my tv time is mostly cartoons.

Everyone morning, my oldest lays in my bed and watches cartoons on my Ipad. I was doing dishes and all of a sudden, I hear South Park. I run into the bedroom and immediately shut it off. She’s 2 and definitely shouldn’t be watching anything like that.

It really got me thinking. There are shows and movies that we like to watch, but most of the time, we have to wait until the kids are in bed to watch them. It’s either because the show is vulgar and full of sexual comments or something along those lines, violent or just plain scary. If I don’t want to fill my child’s mind with that kind of stuff, why would I fill my own?

The eyes are said to be the window to the soul. I find that very true. Junk in. Junk out. I know that when I have watched scary movies, I have horrible nightmares afterwards. Some of things that I watch, I probably won’t change because they aren’t that bad. It’s something that I would let them watch when they got older, just not now. What’s that mean for anything else? I’m going to start being more cautious about what I  put on my tv.